I am not exactly streetwise when it comes to things like EPA. My mother always moaned about not being able to manage on her pensions, but would never discuss her incomings and outgoings. With the onset of Alzheimers, she suddenly seemed to forget money existed, which was a relief in one way as people were taking advantage (gardeners etc were getting paid 2 or 3 times). So I started getting her pensions, paying her bills etc.
When she went into a home, the social worker asked about PoA, sympathised that it is a problem with most people going into homes, and then it was never mentioned again, so I carry on getting her pensions, paying the care home most of it, and occasionally buying her clothes, food etc.
Now she has moved to a nursing home, different social workers have got involved and a new financial assessment has been done, and it sounds like the lack of PoA isn't going to be ignored this time. (supposed to have been getting a phone call this morning).
To be honest, I feel that I just can't be bothered arguing about money. I am the only living relative, we are talking about £7000 in the bank, and I have enough on working full time, visiting my mother every 2 days as it is the only stimulation she gets, and knowing that she has many problems including Alzheimers, lung cancer, cataracts etc.
IF they kick up a fuss about me being the "middle man" and passing money on to the home, how should I handle it, what can they do etc ?
I know the social workers are only doing their job and protecting themselves from possible problems, but it is getting really upsetting !
When she went into a home, the social worker asked about PoA, sympathised that it is a problem with most people going into homes, and then it was never mentioned again, so I carry on getting her pensions, paying the care home most of it, and occasionally buying her clothes, food etc.
Now she has moved to a nursing home, different social workers have got involved and a new financial assessment has been done, and it sounds like the lack of PoA isn't going to be ignored this time. (supposed to have been getting a phone call this morning).
To be honest, I feel that I just can't be bothered arguing about money. I am the only living relative, we are talking about £7000 in the bank, and I have enough on working full time, visiting my mother every 2 days as it is the only stimulation she gets, and knowing that she has many problems including Alzheimers, lung cancer, cataracts etc.
IF they kick up a fuss about me being the "middle man" and passing money on to the home, how should I handle it, what can they do etc ?
I know the social workers are only doing their job and protecting themselves from possible problems, but it is getting really upsetting !