1. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    Thankyou you two.

    I have got a lovely group of friends who are very supportive and a growing number of pupils to take my mind off things when needed never mind the financial support.

    MaNaAk
     
  2. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    Hello Everyone!

    Just letting you know that my very best friends are very concerned for me and they can't believe my brother's behaviour. One of them is dismayed that I cancelled the solicitors and she is worried about my brother doing probate on-line as she doesn't trust him. So far he seems to be doing his job and all this time I am going to be doing a few sums myself so that I can come to a decision on the house although I want to stay if I can.

    MaNaAk
     
  3. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    Does anyone think I should go back to the solicitors? I am a bit mixed up at the moment.

    MaNaAk
     
  4. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2018
    363
    Hi @MaNaAk, from what you've said about your brothers in the past I think running your concerns past a solicitor might be a good idea. It might just be that he is awful with emotional situations (my husband is the same, and is at present, hiding from going to see my mum),which is why he doesn't seem to have been there when you needed him, but it could be that he is trying to swing things to his advantage rather than that of the three of you.
    However I'm not you, and don't know the ins and outs of it but, but if your friend is concerned, it might be worth considering getting in another opinion.
     
  5. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    Just been back to the solicitors and feel better. They now know that I am living here and that my brothers are not talking to each other except via email and that they have not done much of the caring. They did say that they need to see us all together but that if one brother didn't want to come then they would send letters to him.

    They said that any payment would come from dad and that they will act according to the will. I feel better because I will be able to make plans and not just in a few weeks.

    Thankyou all for being there for me.

    MaNaAk
     
  6. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    I'm just wondering if any of you wonderful people out there might what a solicitor would say or do if I made a decision to stay in this house and refused to sell my share. I'm just thinking of my options for the future and some of you have given me some great ideas.

    Thankyou very much

    MaNaAk
     
  7. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
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    North Manchester
  8. Delphie

    Delphie Registered User

    Dec 14, 2011
    1,249
    I think your only realistic options, if you want to stay in the house, are to either buy your brothers out or have them agree to you renting it, with two thirds of the rent going to them.

    Ultimately, if executors can't agree, one of you will have to apply to the courts for a decision, or to have an executor or executors removed. It's expensive and it's unlikely a court would rule against a will, so if the will says the estate is to be split three ways you, or a court, will have to find a way of achieving this.

    I've dealt with probate twice in the last two years. Did everything myself. The first was straightforward. The second contentious and it's still rumbling on and is similar to your situation. I got legal advice and was told the above. The solicitor was very pragmatic and advised heavily against legal action if at all possible.
     
  9. Elle3

    Elle3 Registered User

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  10. MaNaAk

    MaNaAk Registered User

    Jun 19, 2016
    1,203
    Essex
    Thankyou all very much! This is excellent stuff for me to work. I had a very interesting conversation with my youngest invisible last night and gave an insight into his behaviour when dad was admitted to hospital and after the funeral. We had a civil conversation about it and if I should feel pressured into making a decision before making up my mind and sorting out other things as well as probate I am going to bring up other aspects of his activities as well. I will do the same with my other invisible who I am watching very closely as he is doing the probate. I will also be making sure that he does this properly because I have all the details about dad's finances nevermind property.

    MaNaAk
     

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