Hi
Just joined this forum and hoping to get some advice.
My mother in law has cancer and has now been told it's control rather than cure but have no idea how long she has left. My father in law has Alzheimers and we have just found out from mother in law that they have made no arrangements with regards to a power of attorney. My father in law is in fact a step parent of my husband so we have no family ties and without power of attorney he could end up being put in a home not chosen by us. We are now trying to sort this out, tackling the situation with him could be harder than the legal paperwork. His Alzheimers isn't too bad at the moment, he knows what is going on, just has trouble with his short term memory and finding the right words to use, the main struggle my mother in law has is his mood swings. He gets frustrated as you can imagine. He was diagnosed about 4 years ago so it has held quite well with the medication. We are hoping the conversation about signing power of attorney over to my husband will go okay and that he will past the test that shows he is still mentally competent to make that decision.
We are trying to sort out a home that he could go into as he has said this is what he would want, part of me is thinking we could look after him as his present condition isn't too bad, but longer term we realise this may not be a good idea with us having young children as well. If we didn't have the children I would not hesitate to look after him myself as I work from home and only a few hours a week. Really not sure what to do about this and what help I would get anyway.
We also have the problem of my mother in laws estate. She hadn't changed her will so her estate will be left to father in law and then that would all be used for his care.
We are all still looking into this and she is hoping there is still something she can do about that.
Any advice on any similar situations would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
Sharon
Just joined this forum and hoping to get some advice.
My mother in law has cancer and has now been told it's control rather than cure but have no idea how long she has left. My father in law has Alzheimers and we have just found out from mother in law that they have made no arrangements with regards to a power of attorney. My father in law is in fact a step parent of my husband so we have no family ties and without power of attorney he could end up being put in a home not chosen by us. We are now trying to sort this out, tackling the situation with him could be harder than the legal paperwork. His Alzheimers isn't too bad at the moment, he knows what is going on, just has trouble with his short term memory and finding the right words to use, the main struggle my mother in law has is his mood swings. He gets frustrated as you can imagine. He was diagnosed about 4 years ago so it has held quite well with the medication. We are hoping the conversation about signing power of attorney over to my husband will go okay and that he will past the test that shows he is still mentally competent to make that decision.
We are trying to sort out a home that he could go into as he has said this is what he would want, part of me is thinking we could look after him as his present condition isn't too bad, but longer term we realise this may not be a good idea with us having young children as well. If we didn't have the children I would not hesitate to look after him myself as I work from home and only a few hours a week. Really not sure what to do about this and what help I would get anyway.
We also have the problem of my mother in laws estate. She hadn't changed her will so her estate will be left to father in law and then that would all be used for his care.
We are all still looking into this and she is hoping there is still something she can do about that.
Any advice on any similar situations would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
Sharon