Has anyone out there had to do this recently? I'm in the process of registering POA and have now taken control of post, possession of bank accounts, medical appointments, legal docs etc. I live 40 minutes away from my Dad and would really appreciate any tips for managing this little lot from a distance. I am currently over there twice a week because of work commitments, but I really want to be there more. I'm finding the whole thing overwhelming, as I'm wracked with guilt for not doing more but at the same time am daunted by what I already have to do (selfish I know). All the documents I've read about being a carer in employment have said that work can refuse part time hours (for a myriad reasons - and my job really would go out of its way to refuse)), and I want to reduce mine further so I can be with Dad more often. Has anyone been through this? Also, does anyone know if carer's allowance is means tested/ how I would go about applying etc. It's not often I find myself out of my depth, but I really am, and would appreciate any advice whatsoever. Please help!!