As I have noted in previous posts my OH was born and raised in Rhodesia (now known as Zimbabwe). He left there to come to live in England in 1979 when he was 35 years old ( with his first wife). For quite some time he has had occasional moments of muddling where he and I live in Buckinghamshire with where he lived in his youth. However, for the past week he has had the fixed notion that we are going to spend Christmas and Hogmanay ( his father was from Scotland) with his parents and other family members on their farm in Rhodesia. He is most insistent that the farm is only 10 or 12 miles away. Fact is his father died nearly 20 years ago, his mother 17 years ago, and there are no other aunts, uncles or cousins surviving either, and the farm ( thanks to Robert Mugabe) no longer exists. I have tried ignoring OH when he starts to talk about going. I`ve tried changing the subject. I`ve tried distraction, and in desperation I have tried proving to OH that the distance between the U.K. and Zimbabwe is far too great for us to travel there. Nothing has worked. The idea is permanently stuck in his mind, and every few minutes he mentions it in some way or other. I am simply at my wits end to get him off the subject, or preferably forget it all together. I dare not mention anything to do with Christmas at the moment because it just promotes him start again. Please, if any of you dear people have any suggestions as to how I can handle this I will be delighted to hear from you.