My mum is in middle stage dementia, and relies very heavily on me and my brother for all her daily tasks, food prep, laundry, shopping, bills etc.
My brother lives with mum 3-4 days a week and WFH from there. I live much closer so can visit daily when he isn't there. She now needs one of us every day for something, and we've agreed that its more than we can handle between us, and still manage our own lives. Mum is self finding for this so we have been able to go ahead and get something organised.
We've just started with a carers for an hour twice a week, in the evening to prepare the evening meal, clear up, and give mum a little bit of company, maybe take her for a short walk. The idea is that we start light, and then expand into more days / tasks as mum declines, and unfortunatley we fear we aren't that far from needing personal care, so we want mum used to people helping her before they really do need to get personal with her.
Mum is pretty resistant to the whole idea, she's polite to the carers when they are there, but is clear she doesnt want "people poking about in her house" and "she can manage without them"
My question is really about how we can make mum see how the carers can help her, and win her over a bit.
The meal prep we have asked so far is simple so the carers can talk with mum and get to know her, but I'm wondering if there are other helpful tasks we could get them doing so that mum sees them as a benefit not an intrusion.
We dont really want them doing much cleaning as we also have a cleaner who comes in, and they arent there long enough to help with laundry, so any tips on other home help tasks that could help win mum over, and get her used to other people than me and my brother supporting her ?
My brother lives with mum 3-4 days a week and WFH from there. I live much closer so can visit daily when he isn't there. She now needs one of us every day for something, and we've agreed that its more than we can handle between us, and still manage our own lives. Mum is self finding for this so we have been able to go ahead and get something organised.
We've just started with a carers for an hour twice a week, in the evening to prepare the evening meal, clear up, and give mum a little bit of company, maybe take her for a short walk. The idea is that we start light, and then expand into more days / tasks as mum declines, and unfortunatley we fear we aren't that far from needing personal care, so we want mum used to people helping her before they really do need to get personal with her.
Mum is pretty resistant to the whole idea, she's polite to the carers when they are there, but is clear she doesnt want "people poking about in her house" and "she can manage without them"
My question is really about how we can make mum see how the carers can help her, and win her over a bit.
The meal prep we have asked so far is simple so the carers can talk with mum and get to know her, but I'm wondering if there are other helpful tasks we could get them doing so that mum sees them as a benefit not an intrusion.
We dont really want them doing much cleaning as we also have a cleaner who comes in, and they arent there long enough to help with laundry, so any tips on other home help tasks that could help win mum over, and get her used to other people than me and my brother supporting her ?
