Social services want to put my dad into a care home in the next few days n Im absolutely heartbroken. He lives alone and this has come about cos since the nights starteddrawing in his sleep patterns have gone to pot and he is sleeping in the early evening and then waking up at 3am and, unfortunately, proceeding to go out and knock on the neighbours doors. It seems so harsh to me, he has done it quite a few times but to be fair all in the space of 2 weeks. How do they know this isnt just another bad patch that will pass in a few days? He has lived in this neighbourhood all his life his whole life is here and they want him to move 20 miles away. How can they just enforce this without me getting a say? This is absolutely destroying me. They havent even given me enough time to think about options or come up with possible solutions that dont involve care. I feel like they are taking his life away on a whim. I know he is very unwell and it will have to happen oneday but why this sudden hurry, why not give me time to properly consider options? And right before xmas too. I think they are rushing it because a place has arisen in a really good home n they want him to go there but... what if a local home is more appropriate? Why rush to get him into a home 20 miles away that I actually cant even get to without 2 buses without even bothering to ask me?? Theyv said if he doesnt go voluntarily to this home (and he wont) he will be hospitalised. WHY?? His problem is psychological he is vety aware of his dementia n he struggles to deal with the emotions, its not a manifestation of his dementia per se. Should i try talking therapies n offer to move in with him while we try it out to reassure them hes safe?? The home is amazing and might do him so much good so part of me wants to go along with it but part of me thinks "Im not done here, there are still options" and feels that Ive let him down. Please help.