Am sitting here typing this & I feel as though my heart & head are splitting in two...
We've noticed for a while now that mums short term memory has worsened, she has refused to see a doctor, saying ' she is FINE'....
I speak to her every day, twice a day & spoke with her this evening bout 7pm, quite a nice chat, joking & ended with the usual ' love you' (me & mum never finish a call without saying it)
Hour n half later the phone rings.. Its mum asking if my dad is round mine. He died 3n half yrs ago,....
I tried deep to remember all the things from the compassionate communication link, but failed miserably, gently tried telling mum that he had died, she didn't deny it, in fact back tracked completely, saying she had just woken up & was confused ( she admitted that) then full of apologies as I started crying & that she must be going like her sister ( older has had Alzheimer's for 10 yrs) & will see the doctor....
I put the phone down, sobbing like a baby cos I know this is the start of the rapid decline.....& frankly I was having a real ' why us' moment.
Spoke with my brother who then also called mum, he is a nurse & she does tend to listen to him, he said it could be a UTI, chest infection, she had a severe UTI a month ago & I have noticed she hardly drinks.
So, will see what tomorrow brings, going to take the morning off work & pop round, maybe, just maybe she will remember & want to see the doctor....??
Thank you for reading, not expecting miracles, just nice knowing people understand
Sas xx
We've noticed for a while now that mums short term memory has worsened, she has refused to see a doctor, saying ' she is FINE'....
I speak to her every day, twice a day & spoke with her this evening bout 7pm, quite a nice chat, joking & ended with the usual ' love you' (me & mum never finish a call without saying it)
Hour n half later the phone rings.. Its mum asking if my dad is round mine. He died 3n half yrs ago,....
I tried deep to remember all the things from the compassionate communication link, but failed miserably, gently tried telling mum that he had died, she didn't deny it, in fact back tracked completely, saying she had just woken up & was confused ( she admitted that) then full of apologies as I started crying & that she must be going like her sister ( older has had Alzheimer's for 10 yrs) & will see the doctor....
I put the phone down, sobbing like a baby cos I know this is the start of the rapid decline.....& frankly I was having a real ' why us' moment.
Spoke with my brother who then also called mum, he is a nurse & she does tend to listen to him, he said it could be a UTI, chest infection, she had a severe UTI a month ago & I have noticed she hardly drinks.
So, will see what tomorrow brings, going to take the morning off work & pop round, maybe, just maybe she will remember & want to see the doctor....??
Thank you for reading, not expecting miracles, just nice knowing people understand
Sas xx