I’ve previously posted about my mum and her dog and the advice was to try to do something to enable the dog to stay with my mum. My mum lives on her own. Unfortunately, although I arranged a dog walker to come round twice a day to walk the dog and feed her and check water, my mum is sometimes refusing to let the dog walker in or to walk the dog. On more than 1 occasion when she has done this I have found the dog has no water. Any suggestions welcome. My next problem is my mums neighbour. We have had issues with her before. She doesn’t think there is anything wrong with my mum, and accosts the carers that come to give my mum her medications. She tells them there is nothing wrong with mum and that I am trying to put my mum into a home. This week my mum had been allocated another day care place, but when transport arrived, she went out from her house and told them my mum didn’t go to daycare on that day. As a result my mum refused to go. Social work have spoken to her twice to tell her to back off, but she clearly thinks that she is right, and that me and my family, social work, and the go and psychiatrist are wrong. My poor mum is being fed all this negative stuff about care homes and about me. Honestly this role is so hard without a more or less complete stranger thinking they know best (she has only been a neighbour for 4 years, and my mum never liked her before the dementia got a grip). We have tried speaking to her but she doesn’t believe a word we say.