Can people with Alzheimer’s be deliberately obstructive and unco-operative including ignoring people that talk to them? My husband has been all three today. He can be sweetness and light to others but as soon as we are alone he can be difficult. I know he has heard what I have said but he chooses to ignore me if it is something he doesn’t want to hear. Does anyone else have a similar problem?
Host/hostess mode has already been mentioned but it is fleeting and, as stated, we can suffer the consequences of the effort it takes out of the PWD.
To look beyond that think about your OH's ability to conceive of a plan, plot the result required, remember said plan and put it into action. All of this may be required to execute a deliberate course of action. Would someone with Alzheimer's be able to do all that? I am inclined to think they wouldn't have been diagnosed if they could do all that.
That's not to say that their 'thoughtless' and unplanned actions can't cause an emotional battering. I'm suffering in this way at the moment at the hands of my wife but I know it's not deliberate and I will spring back into caring mode as soon as I get over my emotional bruises.
I know it's tough. I've shed many a tear when my wife's tucked up in bed and I'm alone. TP is always here for you, and me!