I'm reaching out in case anyone else going through similar problem. Mother 85yrs - always been a bit tricky/feisty; now doesn't often remember; has mood swings; loses things; hides things in odd places then thinks they are being taken; fights with husband (our father) 92 yrs. who is not emotionally capable to react appropriately - he tries but never succeeds and she complains about him constantly. They are a bad match and more so due to current situation. I am taking calls from my mother daily - mostly confusing on various levels depending on her mood but always making it quite clear that she is control and "not losing her marbles" - her words not mine. She has not been away from their home in months. Says she walks but doubt she does and struggles with her feet in any case. No social interaction with remaining friends - we do try to encourage but falls on deaf ears. Doesn't do the internet. Sleeps in front of TV; doesn’t read. No hobbies. Only contact are calls from our small family (my brother, me and our respective adult children). What can do we do to improve this situation? She is adamant no help required. My father does his best, but she pushes him away and tells him not to interfere. My brother and I can't arrange outside help now due to virus but would have a struggle with her if we did. Cannot visit properly due to virus (although my brother can check from across the garden; I am an hour away). Their quality of life is nil. Both childlike in comprehension of everything. Both need coaxing/nurture in different forms. In the midst of on-going tests for our mother (currently on hold due to virus) to fully diagnose dementia. But her behaviour (too much to write here) more than explains what is going on. They are self-sufficient to a point but only ready meals I've arranged but no cleaning help during virus. They are not dying. They do not need medical help. My father's brain is good but born to an era that does not cook or become "domestic"! He tries but gets so frustrated by our mother's reaction to his help, so they shout! What can be done to improve their situation? Huge apologies for sending such a garbled and long winded message but really struggling to know what to do for the best when our mother is so complicated and refuses to acknowledge anything wrong but then spends most of each day telling us how awful she feels; or has lost something; someone has taken it; our father is a moron; "I'm having a bad day" etc ... been like this for years but now it strongly appears there is finally a reason for it. Please offer any suggestions for this interim stage. They would be very gratefully received. Honestly not sure if anything can help but are her children we must try. Thank you very much indeed, if only to let me off load!