Sorry I've taken so long.
An update on events with Gran.
Last Thursday, Gran had an appointment with SS & then her consultant at the hospital.
Firstly, Social Services sent a new person out that Mum hadn't encountered before, & was starting to feel a bit fobbed off again. She spoke at length about Gran going on the wander, & the scorch marks in the microwave, & the meals being found charred under the grill, etc etc.
A month ago, we asked if someone would be able to go to Gran at lunchtimes, on the days we can't be with her, to make sure her meal is eaten. SS refused, on the grounds that we use a private enterprise to make & deliver her meals. SS have now, all of a sudden, decided that someone can go in after all!!! If its possible now, why the heck was it not possible before????? Perhaps the man who came for SS was deaf & didn't hear us when we told him what problems we were having? Perhaps he was just being awkward? Who knows? We now have a carer going in at 1.30p.m every day to ensure her meal has been warmed safely & eaten!
The lady that came listened patiently to mum regarding Gran going walkabout the other week. She was of the opinion that it was unlikely that Gran would wander again, because Gran said that she wouldn't!!!! Mum stated that Gran's GP had informed her that once the wandering starts it is unlikely to stop. Still she wouldn't give in that things need changing.
So, on we go to Gran's consultant. Mr Cooper was very tactful with Gran. He told her that he had had a letter from her GP who was now very worried about her safety, & explained to Gran that, for some time now, he had been doing everything within his power to keep her in her own home, but that he now thought the time had come where Gran had to accept that she now needs to be in a residential home. He asked her how she would feel if she had heard of an elderly lady who had been left to wander the streets at night, would she not consider that that lady would be in need of some more help? Gran said "Oh, yes, that would be awful for her, who was that then? Was it someone I know?".
He then explained to mum that he has weekly meetings with SS regarding his dementia patients, & who had crept up the list for needing specialist care. He told mum that Gran is now a priority on his list, but that his hands are tied with funding.
So! We have now got people to listen, & to understand that we are not trying to pass the buck & shove care for Gran on to someone else's shoulders just because we can't be bothered about her.
Mum has told SS that she would like them to look at Care Homes in my locality, so that Gran will be nearer to us, & we can all share the care for her from here, which will be so much easier for all of us. They have agreed that they will do so, but warned us not to rush into putting her into one as it could turn out to be very expensive. We hadn't intended to do so, we have yet to get Gran to accept that we will be with her every day, but at least they were considerate on that score.
I can't say that we are victorious in our quest for help, because I still have a sense that somewhere along the line the wheels will come off & SS will find some way of ducking out of helping us. But for now we have advanced.
HALLELUJAH!!!
Gill
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