Sorry in advance for length of this post, must admit I feel a little better for doing it.
Second sentence of the day with M.I.L, and I've nearly completely said "nasty" things. Yes I know she can't help it but, I am not a particularly patient, when I am in ill health and exhausted.
I have a lot of experience of caring and nurturing, as my husband and I adopted to sisters, one with moderate learning and challenging behavioural issues, and one who is severely learning disabled, physical disabilities, no speach and a whole host of medical problems. Luckily the eldest can live independently, works hard, plays hard, still is a challenge. Lol. Youngest who is 28 had to move out into firstly residential care and then supported living 9 years ago, because of my ill health, I still am her appointee and have all the fun of dealing with Care Company, Day Services, Hospital and Social Services! so you would think caring for M.I.L Would not be so challenging. Unfortunately, I am resentful, and very angry. Mourning the loss of my life, even though I didn't have much of one to start with. What has really started me off today is....... Mum thinks we throw the contents of commode onto garden!!!! she was worried because she had put toilet paper into the bowl. She has always been obsessive about hygiene, and everything being spotless, me not so. However I do have issues, with her blowing her nose and then wiping the table with the tissue, picking dropped food off of a cafe table and eating it, and now this belief that the commode gets emptied on the garden.
Second sentence of the day with M.I.L, and I've nearly completely said "nasty" things. Yes I know she can't help it but, I am not a particularly patient, when I am in ill health and exhausted.
I have a lot of experience of caring and nurturing, as my husband and I adopted to sisters, one with moderate learning and challenging behavioural issues, and one who is severely learning disabled, physical disabilities, no speach and a whole host of medical problems. Luckily the eldest can live independently, works hard, plays hard, still is a challenge. Lol. Youngest who is 28 had to move out into firstly residential care and then supported living 9 years ago, because of my ill health, I still am her appointee and have all the fun of dealing with Care Company, Day Services, Hospital and Social Services! so you would think caring for M.I.L Would not be so challenging. Unfortunately, I am resentful, and very angry. Mourning the loss of my life, even though I didn't have much of one to start with. What has really started me off today is....... Mum thinks we throw the contents of commode onto garden!!!! she was worried because she had put toilet paper into the bowl. She has always been obsessive about hygiene, and everything being spotless, me not so. However I do have issues, with her blowing her nose and then wiping the table with the tissue, picking dropped food off of a cafe table and eating it, and now this belief that the commode gets emptied on the garden.