Hi,
My wife, now just 66, has been in a care home for six months. A very painful decision to place her there as I had been looking after her for a long time. Cried my eyes out . Still, I kind of share the care with the home in that my OH is now hard to bathe being pretty scared of water. So I do that and take her out for nice walks - I am feeling a bit better. She knows I am someone special I think but cannot get my name or who I am - but is pleased to see me and sad to see me leave.
But we have a new problem I need advice on. My OH is now very reluctant indeed to wear underwear - no bra or pants! And now no glasses (and she is short sighted). I would get into a fight if I insisted and anyway she just takes the smalls off after 10 minutes. Staff have no more luck than me. OH I think finds any elastic/tightness disproportionately uncomfortable. I have tried every kind of bra and pants including a set of my own Calvin Kleins!. Preserving her modesty is tricky. She also will only wear lose sandals - come rain or shine.
Any suggestions? Is this a phase? Anyone dealt with this before? I kind of need to solve this otherwise going out in public is risky.
My wife, now just 66, has been in a care home for six months. A very painful decision to place her there as I had been looking after her for a long time. Cried my eyes out . Still, I kind of share the care with the home in that my OH is now hard to bathe being pretty scared of water. So I do that and take her out for nice walks - I am feeling a bit better. She knows I am someone special I think but cannot get my name or who I am - but is pleased to see me and sad to see me leave.
But we have a new problem I need advice on. My OH is now very reluctant indeed to wear underwear - no bra or pants! And now no glasses (and she is short sighted). I would get into a fight if I insisted and anyway she just takes the smalls off after 10 minutes. Staff have no more luck than me. OH I think finds any elastic/tightness disproportionately uncomfortable. I have tried every kind of bra and pants including a set of my own Calvin Kleins!. Preserving her modesty is tricky. She also will only wear lose sandals - come rain or shine.
Any suggestions? Is this a phase? Anyone dealt with this before? I kind of need to solve this otherwise going out in public is risky.