Mum is 85, bedridden, and has had dementia for about 4/5 years now. I am her full time carer, she lives with me.
In the last 3 days she is just sleeping all the time, cannot now get out of bed and use the commode next to her (which she used to use a few times a day until then), barely eats and drinks, and when asked questions just says mmmm. I have put pads on her bed to absorb urine, but she hasn't had a bowel movement since Wednesday which is really unusual (but then again she has not hardly had anything to eat since). Before that on Monday/Tuesday she had diarrhea a lot. This is all since she slipped when getting back into bed on Wednesday after using the commode, she landed on her bottom and I think it scared her, but she said she was fine, I checked for bruises etc and nothing, we got her into bed, and she's more or less been asleep since. She has had a toothache for ages, we did have the community dentist around before all this virus started, he removed 2 teeth, but she has still been complaining about pain in another part of her mouth, the dentist had a look there and said no problem with her teeth there. I've been giving her paracetamol when she's said she's in pain.
Now she's not saying anything and I'm really worried, I'm sat in her bedroom with her 20 hours a day (I have a desk in her room with my PC on), and I ask her if she's OK and feels OK, she just says mmmm. I don't like to bother the Doctor as I know everything is manic, but if she is heading towards end of life I'd like to know so I can make the most of the time we have left. Her head is constantly moving on her pillow, and she's itching her arm a lot. I feel like the worst daughter in the world, should I have phoned an ambulance, got a doctor, but she hates a fuss, and when I asked her on Wednesday after she had her slip if she wanted to see a doctor she said absolutely not.
I want to phone the doctor on Monday to have a chat, but I know they are so busy.
Any advice would be so much appreciated x
In the last 3 days she is just sleeping all the time, cannot now get out of bed and use the commode next to her (which she used to use a few times a day until then), barely eats and drinks, and when asked questions just says mmmm. I have put pads on her bed to absorb urine, but she hasn't had a bowel movement since Wednesday which is really unusual (but then again she has not hardly had anything to eat since). Before that on Monday/Tuesday she had diarrhea a lot. This is all since she slipped when getting back into bed on Wednesday after using the commode, she landed on her bottom and I think it scared her, but she said she was fine, I checked for bruises etc and nothing, we got her into bed, and she's more or less been asleep since. She has had a toothache for ages, we did have the community dentist around before all this virus started, he removed 2 teeth, but she has still been complaining about pain in another part of her mouth, the dentist had a look there and said no problem with her teeth there. I've been giving her paracetamol when she's said she's in pain.
Now she's not saying anything and I'm really worried, I'm sat in her bedroom with her 20 hours a day (I have a desk in her room with my PC on), and I ask her if she's OK and feels OK, she just says mmmm. I don't like to bother the Doctor as I know everything is manic, but if she is heading towards end of life I'd like to know so I can make the most of the time we have left. Her head is constantly moving on her pillow, and she's itching her arm a lot. I feel like the worst daughter in the world, should I have phoned an ambulance, got a doctor, but she hates a fuss, and when I asked her on Wednesday after she had her slip if she wanted to see a doctor she said absolutely not.
I want to phone the doctor on Monday to have a chat, but I know they are so busy.
Any advice would be so much appreciated x