Hi, I haven't posted much on here, however I am a long way from my post of 2 years ago! Mum is now 85 last June, won't take her medications for incontinence and dementia and adcal or anything else she chews them if they get into her mouth then spits them back at me! Still awkward to get her to eat but she has survived another 2 years from my last post so the sweet stuff must keep her going! She won't let me wash her, In the end every week we have a major battle, she slaps me (doesn't hurt at all) and calls me names! the major problem I now have is incontinence, she won't let me deal with the incontinence pants or anything, just resists all the looking after I try to do! Now sleeping a lot of the day either in bed or on a bed settee, communication is a big problem as she can't understand anything. At her last assesment in December she scored 6/30 for the MMSE. I really don't know how to proceed! Social services visited in December also, say can offer help but think my mum will make outside help difficult! Phew................ feel better now!