I am very distressed at my Husbands dementia tonight, I am not going to visit at night again. Even though I know he can't help it he can be so hurtful, dare I say it because I will not "share a bed with him". After 48 years of marriage and his infidelity many years ago how can this disease make him so cruel to me. After a day today /years/ of trying to do the best for him for him to be so shallow towards me is so hard to take, I know he can't help it but why why why. Silver Lining.