My husband now 83 was diagnosed with vascular dementia a little over a year ago. I'm still working part time and have childcare on the days I don't work I only have one day a week when I don't have to go to work or pick kids up from school
Every day I care for my husband who absolutely refuses to have carers in to help me.. Added to this we are having major work done to our home. ie an extention so that when the time comes that he can't manage the stairs he will have a self contained room downstairs, hence why I'm still having to work to pay for all the alterations. Up to now I've managed however recently he's become extremely argumentative and lashes out when he doesn't get his own way. I realise he doesn't mean it and it's the disease but it's getting out of hand and he's been a bit hands on with the grandchildren who are only 4. He's not hit them yet just grabbed them but he's hit me a few times. As I can't deal with it I just take myself out of the situation and go to my bedroom but these situations are increasing and I'm not sure how much longer I can cope with it on my own. I often cry myself to sleep and I know he can't help it. There seems to be a lot of help out there for the patient but not a lot for the carer especially when the patient refuses outside help. I'm 18 years younger than my husband... I've worked my **** off to make his life better to the tune of 40 k so far and I know it's for better for worse but I feel my life is already over and I'm helpless to do anything about it
Every day I care for my husband who absolutely refuses to have carers in to help me.. Added to this we are having major work done to our home. ie an extention so that when the time comes that he can't manage the stairs he will have a self contained room downstairs, hence why I'm still having to work to pay for all the alterations. Up to now I've managed however recently he's become extremely argumentative and lashes out when he doesn't get his own way. I realise he doesn't mean it and it's the disease but it's getting out of hand and he's been a bit hands on with the grandchildren who are only 4. He's not hit them yet just grabbed them but he's hit me a few times. As I can't deal with it I just take myself out of the situation and go to my bedroom but these situations are increasing and I'm not sure how much longer I can cope with it on my own. I often cry myself to sleep and I know he can't help it. There seems to be a lot of help out there for the patient but not a lot for the carer especially when the patient refuses outside help. I'm 18 years younger than my husband... I've worked my **** off to make his life better to the tune of 40 k so far and I know it's for better for worse but I feel my life is already over and I'm helpless to do anything about it