Hi every-one...just returned from scotland after visitng mum again...stayed in my sons flat for a few days... he is in the navy so he wasn,t at home.. i was glad as i'm always stressed out... or my topic of conversation is alzhemers.. i wanted to visit mum again as i was ready to make the desicion about moving her to cheshire to be closer to myself... i spent a lot of time at the home at all different times to get a more realistic view on my mums enviroment ... My mum is still mobile and she does like to wander. i saw her wandering round with a lady who she has made a friend of,, this touched my heart as i realised that they depended on each other just like a true friend would. Although i am not happy with the level of care due to the lack of staff i realised my mum is happy in her surroundings and moving her may further advance the A.D. . Reading your replies to my last post helped. I visited a home close to me which i didn,t particulary like but this helped me realise i could be going down the same road with the same problems that arise in a care home. My mum also has 2 days a week at a dementia group which she has attended for 6 years and it is trully wonderfull and i also trust the woman that runs this group 110% My mum loves this group and she thinks she is visiting an old friend... my mum gets great support and stimulation from the dementia group.This would stop if i moved her.... This group prevents my mum from vegetating. When i was at the home there was a meeting for relatives and residents which i attended.. the weather was bad so there was a poor turn out.. but it was good to hear the views of the other relatives which is the same things that i complain about ... at least i'm not alone in the fight for the level of care our relatives deserve.. so for the moment i am leaving my mum in this care home but i know that this could change in the future.I took my mum to the dentist and the opticians when i was there so we had another busy adventure for us both..My heart feels better at the moment but i know i can only plan for the unexpected when dealing with alzheimers.. take care every-one