Hi all, my mum was diagnosed a year ago with Altheimer's. Since then I've struggled with how I should deal with things. I've never really liked her but seem to be the only one who constantly 'just gets on with it'. I don't shout from the roof tops about the support I give her; neither do I constantly moan, I just try to deal with her quietly and consistantly. My family, quite numerous, seem to vie for the 'best' sibling award. I don't want to do what I do but I do, no one else is able to give that time to her. I now visit my mum every day, some times several times a day. Some of those visits are really interesting; she tells me things I've never heard before. I often feel as though I have a window on her world pre marriage and kids, which is great; there are stories I've never heard or appreciated before. She has so many experiences to share. What I find hard to cope with is the pressure of visiting her on top of a really busy job and my own family needs. I'm constantly exhuasted and feel as though this will never end. I'm sure others feel the same, but it isn't helping. Every week I need longer to resolve the problems and take more time off work. My partner finds it difficult to cope; he really doesn't understand the effort given to caring for her. My brothers and sisters are alll to quick to judge; they have no idea of the effort involved; typical comment is 'well I have her for a week at a time'.....I have her everyday; everyday I try to support and encourage her. If I saw her for a week every three months I think I'd die and go to heaven! I feel as though I'm at my wits end. I look forward to the day when she goes into care but at the same time I try everything I can to keep her at home and maintain her independance. I think I'm lost and very tired. I want the best for her but also don't want to be involved - dilemma - tell me about it! Help I'm going mad!