Hi I'm new here and would like to introduce myself . I'm Sandie , 43 and a single mum of 2 teens . I am bipolar and work full time . My step dad has recently been diagnosed with VasD and currently I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by it all . Myself and my step sister are both Powe or Attorney for my step dad but she lives at the other end of the country ( myself and her dad in scotland and her on the south coast of England ). She has no trust of me and has recently tried to have me removed as power of attorney by using my mental health against me . She has come up from England and taken possession of all his financial matters and I am not being allowed any info at all . My step dad is currently getting much worse but she is trying to normalise him and is putting words into his mouth to turn him against me and my aunty who are the only two people who are around him at any point . She even is suggesting he travels 25 miles on a bus to go to a club he's never been to in years and this has only ended up causing upset and confusion for him . She is doing nothing to help his care and it's being left up to me to make sure he is ok . I live five miles from him but don't drive and to get a bus to see him means a 2 hour journey as there is no direct route to the village he lives in . He's suddenly started to get much worse after having had his flu jab and has had a fall and knocked his head , his fits are getting much closer together and I feel I have nowhere to turn to for guidance , I have no idea of vascular dementia having never known anyone with it and sadly my step sister is non communicative with me about anything so I am finding it hard to go forward with anything as she just refuses point blank to work with me for her dads best interests . I lie awake at night worrying about him but she doesn't give a damn and it really saddens me that she's only after money and not about him having a comfortable life or trying to help him to achieve such . I do hope I've not rambled too much and excuse the rant ..but I'd also just like to say I'm so glad I have found somewhere that perhaps I can learn a lot more about the disease and how best to help him to maintain his independence yet keep him safe xx Thanks for reading xx