My husband who is in a secure nursing home suffering from A.D. is still very aggressive and threatening to patients and staff. He went into this home nearly a year ago through this behaviour as he also suffers from hallucinations. The staff are good and assure me that this is all to do with what he suffers from. However I feel so guilty about it and I admit, ashamed. He is only 65 years old and has suffered about 10 years. He is becoming frailer but is still a menace. He takes Quetiapine twice per day and Lorazepam when required, which is often. I've asked his consultant to try him without these pills but they will not do this. I am at my wits end trying to make sense of my feelings and although I visit every day (Ive been told I should'nt but I cannot help it), I really dread going to see him as Im frightened of what the staff are gong to tell me what he has done. I then sit at home imagining what he is geting up to. We@ve been married for fourty years and Im finding it very difficult living without him and Im just plain worried about him. Anyone in a similar position?