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Registered User
Mar 20, 2008
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and have registered because my mother has alzheimers. She has had it for about three years now, she has carers in place and I used to take her shopping, but its hard work trying to get her out of the house these days. For this reason, I'm looking into either lasting power of attorney, or court of protection and would love some advice on this, because its making me feel really guilty!


Registered User
Jun 18, 2006
Annmitt, can't really help with applying but try not to feel guilty. It will benefit you both. There are lots of things about this horrible disease which leave you feeling guilty I'm afraid.

Canadian Joanne

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 8, 2005
Toronto, Canada
Welcome to TP! Although I'm in a different continent, I know you will get some very practical advise from others here.

My opinion is that you do need to set up a power of attorney as quickly as possible. Do not feel guilty - this will enable you to take proper care of your mother and is absolutely essential. The guilt will ease after a while but you must press on, ignore the guilt now and get all the legalities sorted out. Does your mother have a will in place? Is it up to date? All those sorts of things need to be looked at.

Take care of yourself so you can take care of your mother.

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
Hello Annmitt,
Please don`t feel guilty about anything you do in your mother`s best interests.
If you contact MIND or Age Concern, they will provide you with a list of local solicitors who have put their names forwards in the interests of the elderly or confused.
I used one such solicitor with my husband and he was excellent.
I hope this helps.


Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
SW Scotland
Hi, Annmitt, welcome to TP.

Yes, power of Attorney is essential, and you need to do it as soon as possible, because your mother has to understand what she is doing.

Court of protection would be if you didn't get the POA in time, but it's much more complicated, and more expensive.

Don't feel guilty about it, it's something we've all had to do for our loved ones. It's vital that someone reliable is able to look after their interests.

Good luck,


Registered User
Oct 20, 2007
Welcome to TP, Annmitt..

I see that you are local to myself.
I don't know if your aware of the 'Admiral Nurses'?
If not, they are specialist community Dementia nurses and are actually available in our area.
They were really beneficial to our Family, and still are even though we lost Mum 6 months ago!!
They give practical and emotional advice, I cannot praise them enough.

Here's the website to read up a bit about them

Here's our local branch address
North Warwickshire Admiral Nurse Service
Coventry & Warwickshire NHS Partnership Trust
The Manor
6 Manor Court Avenue
CV11 5HX

Phone no. 02476 321520

Feel free to ask more,


Registered User
Jun 6, 2007
Hello and welcome,
Can I suggest contacting your local Alzheimers Society as they have a mine of information which may be able to help you.