1. annmitt

    annmitt Registered User

    Mar 20, 2008
    19
    Coventry
    Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and have registered because my mother has alzheimers. She has had it for about three years now, she has carers in place and I used to take her shopping, but its hard work trying to get her out of the house these days. For this reason, I'm looking into either lasting power of attorney, or court of protection and would love some advice on this, because its making me feel really guilty!
     
  2. taylorcat

    taylorcat Registered User

    Jun 18, 2006
    171
    W.Scotland
    Annmitt, can't really help with applying but try not to feel guilty. It will benefit you both. There are lots of things about this horrible disease which leave you feeling guilty I'm afraid.
     
  3. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,108
    Toronto, Canada
    Welcome to TP! Although I'm in a different continent, I know you will get some very practical advise from others here.

    My opinion is that you do need to set up a power of attorney as quickly as possible. Do not feel guilty - this will enable you to take proper care of your mother and is absolutely essential. The guilt will ease after a while but you must press on, ignore the guilt now and get all the legalities sorted out. Does your mother have a will in place? Is it up to date? All those sorts of things need to be looked at.

    Take care of yourself so you can take care of your mother.
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,569
    Kent
    Hello Annmitt,
    Please don`t feel guilty about anything you do in your mother`s best interests.
    If you contact MIND or Age Concern, they will provide you with a list of local solicitors who have put their names forwards in the interests of the elderly or confused.
    I used one such solicitor with my husband and he was excellent.
    I hope this helps.
     
  5. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi, Annmitt, welcome to TP.

    Yes, power of Attorney is essential, and you need to do it as soon as possible, because your mother has to understand what she is doing.

    Court of protection would be if you didn't get the POA in time, but it's much more complicated, and more expensive.

    Don't feel guilty about it, it's something we've all had to do for our loved ones. It's vital that someone reliable is able to look after their interests.

    Good luck,
     
  6. nickyd

    nickyd Registered User

    Oct 20, 2007
    146
    warwickshire
    Welcome to TP, Annmitt..

    I see that you are local to myself.
    I don't know if your aware of the 'Admiral Nurses'?
    If not, they are specialist community Dementia nurses and are actually available in our area.
    They were really beneficial to our Family, and still are even though we lost Mum 6 months ago!!
    They give practical and emotional advice, I cannot praise them enough.

    Here's the website to read up a bit about them
    www.fordementia.org.uk

    Here's our local branch address
    North Warwickshire Admiral Nurse Service
    Coventry & Warwickshire NHS Partnership Trust
    The Manor
    6 Manor Court Avenue
    Nuneaton
    CV11 5HX

    Phone no. 02476 321520

    Feel free to ask more,
    Love,
     
  7. annmitt

    annmitt Registered User

    Mar 20, 2008
    19
    Coventry
    admiral nurses

    Hi Nicky, thanks for that. I will look into it.

    Anna x
     
  8. annmitt

    annmitt Registered User

    Mar 20, 2008
    19
    Coventry
    Thanks

    Thanks everyone for your replys - I'm so glad I found this forum!

    Anna x
     
  9. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    The others have given you good advice so just wanted to say welcome!

    Linda x
     
  10. jackie1

    jackie1 Registered User

    Jun 6, 2007
    238
    Cheshire
    Hello and welcome,
    Can I suggest contacting your local Alzheimers Society as they have a mine of information which may be able to help you.

    Jackie
     

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