Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and have registered because my mother has alzheimers. She has had it for about three years now, she has carers in place and I used to take her shopping, but its hard work trying to get her out of the house these days. For this reason, I'm looking into either lasting power of attorney, or court of protection and would love some advice on this, because its making me feel really guilty!
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Annmitt, can't really help with applying but try not to feel guilty. It will benefit you both. There are lots of things about this horrible disease which leave you feeling guilty I'm afraid.
Welcome to TP! Although I'm in a different continent, I know you will get some very practical advise from others here.
My opinion is that you do need to set up a power of attorney as quickly as possible. Do not feel guilty - this will enable you to take proper care of your mother and is absolutely essential. The guilt will ease after a while but you must press on, ignore the guilt now and get all the legalities sorted out. Does your mother have a will in place? Is it up to date? All those sorts of things need to be looked at.
Take care of yourself so you can take care of your mother.
My opinion is that you do need to set up a power of attorney as quickly as possible. Do not feel guilty - this will enable you to take proper care of your mother and is absolutely essential. The guilt will ease after a while but you must press on, ignore the guilt now and get all the legalities sorted out. Does your mother have a will in place? Is it up to date? All those sorts of things need to be looked at.
Take care of yourself so you can take care of your mother.
Hello Annmitt,
Please don`t feel guilty about anything you do in your mother`s best interests.
If you contact MIND or Age Concern, they will provide you with a list of local solicitors who have put their names forwards in the interests of the elderly or confused.
I used one such solicitor with my husband and he was excellent.
I hope this helps.
Please don`t feel guilty about anything you do in your mother`s best interests.
If you contact MIND or Age Concern, they will provide you with a list of local solicitors who have put their names forwards in the interests of the elderly or confused.
I used one such solicitor with my husband and he was excellent.
I hope this helps.
Hi, Annmitt, welcome to TP.
Yes, power of Attorney is essential, and you need to do it as soon as possible, because your mother has to understand what she is doing.
Court of protection would be if you didn't get the POA in time, but it's much more complicated, and more expensive.
Don't feel guilty about it, it's something we've all had to do for our loved ones. It's vital that someone reliable is able to look after their interests.
Good luck,
Yes, power of Attorney is essential, and you need to do it as soon as possible, because your mother has to understand what she is doing.
Court of protection would be if you didn't get the POA in time, but it's much more complicated, and more expensive.
Don't feel guilty about it, it's something we've all had to do for our loved ones. It's vital that someone reliable is able to look after their interests.
Good luck,
Welcome to TP, Annmitt..
I see that you are local to myself.
I don't know if your aware of the 'Admiral Nurses'?
If not, they are specialist community Dementia nurses and are actually available in our area.
They were really beneficial to our Family, and still are even though we lost Mum 6 months ago!!
They give practical and emotional advice, I cannot praise them enough.
Here's the website to read up a bit about them
www.fordementia.org.uk
Here's our local branch address
North Warwickshire Admiral Nurse Service
Coventry & Warwickshire NHS Partnership Trust
The Manor
6 Manor Court Avenue
Nuneaton
CV11 5HX
Phone no. 02476 321520
Feel free to ask more,
Love,
I see that you are local to myself.
I don't know if your aware of the 'Admiral Nurses'?
If not, they are specialist community Dementia nurses and are actually available in our area.
They were really beneficial to our Family, and still are even though we lost Mum 6 months ago!!
They give practical and emotional advice, I cannot praise them enough.
Here's the website to read up a bit about them
www.fordementia.org.uk
Here's our local branch address
North Warwickshire Admiral Nurse Service
Coventry & Warwickshire NHS Partnership Trust
The Manor
6 Manor Court Avenue
Nuneaton
CV11 5HX
Phone no. 02476 321520
Feel free to ask more,
Love,
