Never know how tomorrow will be

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Martin099, Apr 26, 2015.

  1. Martin099

    Martin099 Registered User

    Nov 13, 2012
    53
    Dorset
    Just got back from seeing mum (71 with mixed dementia) this evening at the CH. The last two weeks visits have been very relaxed with mum cheerful and going along very well. Tonight was a dramatic turn around - agitated, confused, didn't really know who I was and telling me that "I didn't care about her and that I should just go home".
    I always tell myself when driving home after the goods days that I shouldn't get too complacent because things can turn quickly and lets face it this disease is all about inconsistency! - even so it still takes me by surprise and it really is so demoralising.

    Anyway, whether things are good or bad we tell our loved ones as we leave "that we love them very much and that we will be back the next day" - that's all we can do until the next time, and then the next day we arrive in the car-park with a nervous sick feeling in our stomachs and we hope & prey that they are happy.

    "I love you very much mum - see you tomorrow x"
     
  2. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,499
    Female
    London
    She might have a UTI - is the home getting her checked for that?
     
  3. daisydi

    daisydi Registered User

    Feb 25, 2015
    257
    Norfolk
    Oh that's sad. May be a UTI though. Lets hope so if you know what I mean. I would be devastated if my mum did this.
     
  4. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    15,990
    Toronto, Canada
    A UTI is a good possibility but perhaps she simply had a bad day. Either way, you should always ask them to check for UTIs when your mother gets agitated.
     

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