Hello
My uncle has dementia and I am going through the difficult decision of placing him in a care home.
He has regular support, but is not safe at night.
I visited him on Saturday and he kept repeating “ I want to die” He is physically OK for 87 but clearly very depressed.This is a highly intelligent man who was a librarian and has published translations of Dante.
I felt so upset going through his things and seeing letters from Oxford colleges asking to use his work.
He recognises me and thanks me for visiting , but immediately forgets I have been there. Rationally I know I doing the right thing in placing him in a home near me .( he lives alone 80 miles away),but I know he will refuse.I dread the thought of getting him in the car...he won’t go out of the house, even to the garden, in spite of much encouragement. I asked him if he was happy living in his home, to which he answered “ I’m as happy as I would be anywhere...life is misery”
I just hope with more stimulation and friendly faces he will get more out of life.
Thanks for listening !
My uncle has dementia and I am going through the difficult decision of placing him in a care home.
He has regular support, but is not safe at night.
I visited him on Saturday and he kept repeating “ I want to die” He is physically OK for 87 but clearly very depressed.This is a highly intelligent man who was a librarian and has published translations of Dante.
I felt so upset going through his things and seeing letters from Oxford colleges asking to use his work.
He recognises me and thanks me for visiting , but immediately forgets I have been there. Rationally I know I doing the right thing in placing him in a home near me .( he lives alone 80 miles away),but I know he will refuse.I dread the thought of getting him in the car...he won’t go out of the house, even to the garden, in spite of much encouragement. I asked him if he was happy living in his home, to which he answered “ I’m as happy as I would be anywhere...life is misery”
I just hope with more stimulation and friendly faces he will get more out of life.
Thanks for listening !