Sorry to be a party pooper, but I have travelled the same route that you are now on.
I diligently sewed in loads of name tapes. I Sharpied all knickers. Yet within two weeks mother was in other people's clothes, minus glasses, minus teeth. I kept replacing clothes that seemed to have disappeared, yet never once saw her dressed in any of her new things. I 'debated' with the Home over this and was accused of causing trouble, as the Manager had 'managed' the Home for 20 years and had never had a complaint.
All this became moot when mother became bedridden after a few months. Recently a carer packed a suitcase of her clothes, for me to take home. Most of the items I did not recognise and certainly none of her brand new clothes were included in the packing. I am too exhausted through 11 years of looking after mum, and fighting other battles, to bother with this aggravating event, as Homes do not seem to take the complaint seriously.
The trouble with a Home that has a large number of wandering dementia residents, is that they stroll into each other's rooms and help themselves, thinking that the items are their own. I really do not know what the answer is, it is just another em******ance to cope with in this long arduous battle.
