thank you
thank you..to all of you for taking the time to reply, your words are much appreciated and i take on board all you have said. i will try and live my life too, though where i am moving back to there aren't a huge amount of people and friends around as they've all moved away since my school days, but i will find time. i have brothers and sisters who i will hopefully talk to regularly, and who will remind me to live my own life too. i'm scared, scared that i will move back and feel like i'm all mum has and that be that, but i know i have alot of years ahead of me, so need to keep on top of things and think about me too. but you're right, she's young and that's whats so scary, it could be years before she gets alot worse, or it could be tomorrow, that's why it's so hard for others to understand. i think i am the most sensitive out of all my brothers and sisters, though i know if they were in a position to do so, they'd come and help too, i believe things happen for a reason, and it so happens that i'm in a point in my life where i'm not yet setteled where i am or with a steady job, so am able to up sticks and go back. we've been worried about her driving for a few years if we're honest, but only now has she been assessed and found that the part of her brain that uses spacial awareness is shot to pieces, so driving they have said she really shouldn't be doing, trouble is we're out in the sticks and at the moment it's her only lifeline to getting around and seeing someone (albeit at the supermarket) in a day apart from her cats. it just makes me so sad when i think about. so i am going home so can drive her places and know she and everyone else on the road is safe. it's so hard when it somes to the driving, as you don't want to offend them, but getting the doc and psychologist involved has helped her realise (i hope!) that it really isn't a good idea and she'll be much happier. anyway, thanks again for your kind words all of you, and as always, is good to talk x