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My Nan has been an independent woman for as long as I can remember. And always enjoyed a little drink She was with a kind and gentle man for a 15 years. About 7 years ago h suddenly passed away. My nan then started to drink more. I may sound horrible when I say this but she started turning nasty (verbally) towards the family. She used to call me which I was happy about but once I said hello she said that she was meant to be calling someone else I haven't spoken to her since last Christmas because she didn't want to make anytime for me ( well that's what I thought)
Earlier on this year she had a Nasty fall which she doesn't remember. After a number of tests she was told that she is an alcoholic and has alcohol infused dementia. She has a number of infections on her liver and has been given 3 different vitamin tablets. She forgets to take them. My Uncle is trying to get power of attorney because she refuses to go into a home. I live 78 miles away and don't know what to do. Her short term memory has totally gone,she doesn't look after herself anymore. Her doctor has basically said I am not going to tell you to stop drinking because it will probably kill you but I would suggest to have one glass of wine a night. She gets one of her neighbours to buy her whiskey as well and hides it's.
I suppose the reason for this post is okay have dealt with other illnesses in my family but never this so I would like some support I suppose.
We have been told that if she has another fall and bleeds that she will end up in hospital and probably not come out. If you were me would you go and see her? I know she won't remember or would you wait till she was possibly in a home as it will be safer for everyone?
I'm so confused and don't know how to deal with any of this.
Thankyou for reading
My Nan has been an independent woman for as long as I can remember. And always enjoyed a little drink She was with a kind and gentle man for a 15 years. About 7 years ago h suddenly passed away. My nan then started to drink more. I may sound horrible when I say this but she started turning nasty (verbally) towards the family. She used to call me which I was happy about but once I said hello she said that she was meant to be calling someone else I haven't spoken to her since last Christmas because she didn't want to make anytime for me ( well that's what I thought)
Earlier on this year she had a Nasty fall which she doesn't remember. After a number of tests she was told that she is an alcoholic and has alcohol infused dementia. She has a number of infections on her liver and has been given 3 different vitamin tablets. She forgets to take them. My Uncle is trying to get power of attorney because she refuses to go into a home. I live 78 miles away and don't know what to do. Her short term memory has totally gone,she doesn't look after herself anymore. Her doctor has basically said I am not going to tell you to stop drinking because it will probably kill you but I would suggest to have one glass of wine a night. She gets one of her neighbours to buy her whiskey as well and hides it's.
I suppose the reason for this post is okay have dealt with other illnesses in my family but never this so I would like some support I suppose.
We have been told that if she has another fall and bleeds that she will end up in hospital and probably not come out. If you were me would you go and see her? I know she won't remember or would you wait till she was possibly in a home as it will be safer for everyone?
I'm so confused and don't know how to deal with any of this.
Thankyou for reading