I have just discovered this forum and want to share my feelings with others who will hopefully understand. My mum is 82 and has suffered from AD for about 10 years, the last 4 years she has been in a nursing home where I visit her regularly. My dad visits her most days. She has gone through many of the stages described in various posts in this forum but now she is totally dependant on others and can't hold any sort of conversation. I'm not sure if she knows me - I try to tell her things in the hope I will get a flicker of memory but nothing seems to register. Thankfully we still get a chuckle and smile from her which makes the painful visits worthwhile but it worries me whether she gets any pleasure out of her life. She would have been horrified to imagine herself like this - she is/was such a private and dignified person. It really is torture seeing her suffering and gradually shutting down - is anyone else going through this stage of AD with their Mum?