My mum

[Hollyblue]

Hi my mum was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia last year. Since then she has rapidly declined and I find it very hard to cope with this. She has carers coming in twice a day and I go up nearly every day to see her. But it is getting to the point where I dread seeing her as it is not my cheery mum anymore. Don’t know what to do 🥲

 

[Kevinl]

All here to listen and understand, we've all been there at some point. K

 

[Gosling]

Hello @Hollyblue and firstly welcome to this friendly and supportive forum. There is a wealth of shared experience of dementia to be found here so I am glad you have found us.

I am sorry to read about your Mum. It is heartbreaking for sure to see a loved one slowly decline in front of your eyes. I do feel for you. I had the same with my dear Mum. It is good that you have arranged twice daily carer visits, along with your own regular visits.
All I would say is that you can only do your best - as I'm sure you are, in caring for her in her best interests. Please though do remember, with this disease, now is the best your Mum will be, and there might be a time to consider residential care at some point. A link may help for information:

Care homes: When is the right time and who decides?

Advice and practical tips for carers on when is the right time for a person to be moved to a care home.

www.alzheimers.org.uk

You will always find support and understanding here from people that really do want to help. Do please also use this space to let off some steam or have a rant when you need to. Wishing you strength.