My mum-in-law has Alzheimers

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by julieann15, Jun 13, 2008.

  1. julieann15

    julieann15 Registered User

    Jun 13, 2008
    2,012
    Leicestershire
    My future mum-in-law has been diagnosed with this absolutely awful disease and as my partner works away Monday to friday and his sister lives away and does not visit as much as we would like, the lion's share of the care falls on us- we have care going in am and pm and have arranged extra care and activities in the day but would like to talk to people for support. at the age of 43 with a 7 month old baby and 2 children aged 10 and 16 my time is somewhat stretched!

    Julie
    Mum lives in Hinckley and I live in Loughborough area
     
  2. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi Julie, welcome to TP.

    You certainly have got a lot on your plate, but I'm glad you've managed to arrange carers.

    It's a huge responsibility for you though, so make sure you keep in touch with social services so that you can increase the care package when it becomes necessary.

    You've come to the right place, this is a very friendly forum, so just join in any thread, or post any questions you have. There's almost always someone around.

    All the best,
     
  3. julieann15

    julieann15 Registered User

    Jun 13, 2008
    2,012
    Leicestershire
    Thank you for being the first person to contact me- been a bit fraught today as we think she has been giving away possessions and possibly letting strangers into her flat/flat complex for pensioners- ian and I are going to tackle this issue tomorrow
    Julie
     
  4. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Hello Julie, warm welcome to TP.

    I don't have any answers for you, but genuine warmth and concern comes through in your post. You start off "my mum in law",....and end with "Mum lives in..". Just shows how much you care.

    I do home you and Ian get something sorted tomorrow. Trying times, but for now, at least, mum has her independance. (Not always easy to maintain I know).
     
  5. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    Welcome to TP Julie.
    You will find lot's of help:)
    Barb & Ron
     
  6. christine_batch

    christine_batch Registered User

    Jul 31, 2007
    3,388
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear Julie,
    Welcome to Talking Point.
    You will find so much support here.
    We are all travelling this path together and we are here for each other.
    Best wishes
    Christine
     
  7. jackie1

    jackie1 Registered User

    Jun 6, 2007
    238
    Cheshire
    Hello and welcome,

    I hope you are able to access sufficient support, all I can suggest is to speak to your future Mother-in-laws social worker and your local Alzheimers Society. Hopefully they can get the wheels in motion.

    Is the complex she's in supported? If so could thye keep an eye on the giving away of possessions and letting strangers in?

    Jackie
     
  8. julieann15

    julieann15 Registered User

    Jun 13, 2008
    2,012
    Leicestershire
    There is no warden there but they have pull cords in case of emergency- turns out she let in 2 women while we were on holiday- god only knows who as I have checked all carer/ social workers etc and no one in official capacity came with another person? We are trying to make her lock her door especially when she is in the lounge but she won't and as her flat door is just by the main entrance I feel she is very vulnerable to opportunists. She is also under suspect at having let a door-to-door salesman into the flat complex. We have told her not to let anyone in unless they have an appointment and all official appointments by Social care etc are made through me or Ian so I guess this was sales or something like that but we will never know! She just won't accept that there is "pond life" out there who prey on vulnerable women like her!!

    Julie and Ian
     

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