1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Pear trees

    Pear trees Registered User

    Jan 25, 2015
    442
    My mum aged 90 died at 5.00pm today. She had gone downhill fast following a virus and a UTI. I had stayed with her since 9.30am yesterday, but popped home for a quick shower but was able to say goodbye. My brother, who had not seen her for over 5 years came to see her with my sister-in-law. I think mum was waiting for him to come at the end, and for me to leave.
    She is at peace now.
     
  2. Charlottie

    Charlottie Registered User

    Aug 12, 2015
    6
    So sorry for your loss x
     
  3. father ted

    father ted Registered User

    Aug 16, 2010
    684
    London
    Sorry to hear of your loss Peartrees.

    I am glad your brother managed to get there. Your Mum will have held on for that.
     
  4. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    5,032
    Female
    Chester
    Condolences on your loss - your mum waged a long battle with this disease and is at rest now
     
  5. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,948
    Ireland
  6. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I’m so sorry Peartree, thinking of you and your family.
     
  7. lemonjuice

    lemonjuice Registered User

    Jun 15, 2016
    1,535
    England
    #7 lemonjuice, Oct 27, 2017
    Last edited: Oct 27, 2017
    As you say
    and at least your mother managed to say her final goodbyes with her son.

    Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to and don't feel guilty if, as so many of us, you find you have done a great deal of grieving in the past and aren't as 'overwhelmed' as you expect to feel. Or if you do, be grateful that this will be the beginning of the final 'healing process'.
     
  8. Earthgirl72

    Earthgirl72 Registered User

    Feb 2, 2016
    136
    Sorry to hear of your loss. Sending love to you and your family xx
     
  9. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,237
    Female
    Dundee
    @Pear trees I'm so sorry to read your news. I'm glad though that your mum is at peace and that your brother was able to says his goodbyes.

    Wishing you strength,
     
  10. SnowWhite

    SnowWhite Registered User

    Nov 18, 2016
    699
    Truly sorry to hear of your loss. Xxx
     
  11. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,881
    Female
    South coast
    ((((hugs)))) @Pear trees
    Mum waited for me to go too. I was told it was very common.
    Im glad you managed to sat goodbye
    xx
     
  12. Helly11

    Helly11 Registered User

    Apr 24, 2017
    49
    Female
    Derby
    Sincerest condolences to you and your family on your loss. As a previous poster has said, this will be a difficult time for you - dementia complicates the grieving process, as we have all already done so much of that. Be kind to yourself.
     
  13. Marnie63

    Marnie63 Registered User

    Dec 26, 2015
    1,576
    Hampshire
    I'm sorry for your loss Pear trees. May your mum rest in peace.
     
  14. Risa

    Risa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2015
    483
    Essex
    Very sorry for your loss {{{hugs}}}
     
  15. Scouts girl

    Scouts girl Registered User

    Jan 18, 2017
    308
    So very sorry for your loss but mum is at peace now and free of this awful disease. Take comfort in that you did everything you could for your mum and hope that you, too, find peace as well. Lots of hugs to you xxx
     
  16. Bassman.

    Bassman. Registered User

    Aug 31, 2015
    23
    Deepest sympathies to you and your family at your loss.
    Your Mother has found Peace and may she Rest in Eternal Peace in the Kingdom of Heaven.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time/

    PEACE BE WITH YOU !!!!!!
     
  17. Amy in the US

    Amy in the US Registered User

    Feb 28, 2015
    4,624
    USA
    Pear trees, please accept my condolences. I'm so sorry.

    For what it's worth, my father-in-law waited until he had seen each family member, and also for when he was alone, before he passed.

    Thinking of you.
     
  18. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,478
    Ireland
    I'm sorry for your loss, @Pear trees . My condolences to you. xx
     
  19. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,919
    Suffolk
    So sorry for you, Pear Trees. My sincere condolences.
     
  20. Rosnpton

    Rosnpton Registered User

    Mar 19, 2017
    394
    Northants
    Sorry to read of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family
    Ros x
     

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