1. Willowgill

    Willowgill Registered User

    Mar 29, 2008
    91
    South Yorkshire
    He passed away at 7pm tonight peacefully in his sleep. Sadly no one was with him at the time but I had been there a couple of hours earlier and also this morning. The hospital had discharged him back to the care home on Wed so I was able to spend time sitting with him in his room, talking to him and having his favourite music on his ipod quietly in the background over the last few days. I'm so grateful for this time to be able to say goodbye and also for other family members to see him. The staff at the carehome could not have been better and I know will be upset. He was 89 and had had a good life, enjoying it to the full until the latter years, we will all miss him. We have decided not to tell Mum - there is no sense distressing her only for her to forget, she has not asked where he is and I prefer to let her think he is still at home. Gill
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,326
    Kent
    Please accept my deepest sympathy Gill. xx
     
  3. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,432
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm so sorry and send my sincere condolences Willogill. Xx
     
  4. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,432
    I am so sorry. You know a lot of people (my mother among them) seem to wait until they are alone to go. I think you're also wise not to tell your mother.

    Take care
     
  5. larivy

    larivy Registered User

    Apr 19, 2009
    5,225
    essex
    so sorry Gill it was good you could spend the last few days with your dad in good surroundings please accept my condolences love larivy
     
  6. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    I'm so sorry Gill, my thoughts are with you xxxxxxxxxxxxelaine
     
  7. WovenUnicorn

    WovenUnicorn Registered User

    Aug 6, 2010
    114
    Lothian
    So very sorry, thoughts are with you and your loved ones.

    Unicorn
     
  8. TrustmeMum

    TrustmeMum Registered User

    Aug 19, 2010
    12
    Poole, Dorset
    Very sorry to hear your news. It must be a consolation to know he had a long and, for the most part, happy life and died peacefully.

    Sadness now is with you and others who loved and miss him - he's at peace.
     
  9. Carolyn1

    Carolyn1 Registered User

    Jul 31, 2010
    23
    so sorry

    My thoughts are with you, its so hard to loose someone you love x Carolyn1
     
  10. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    9,322
    Female
    East Kent
    Please accept my condolences

    I think you are right not to tell your mum,it wont b easy for you but easier for ypur mum
    xxx
     
  11. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    So sorry for your loss Gill...as jennifer said, some people seem to chose to wait to die until relatives have left...so good that you have been able to spend time with dad. Take care over the coming days.
    Love Helen
     
  12. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    My deepest sympathies at the loss of your Dad. A wise decision regarding your Mum but then it seems doubly tough for you.

    Take care of yourself now.
     
  13. FifiMo

    FifiMo Registered User

    Feb 10, 2010
    4,716
    Wiltshire
    Gill

    Glad you managed to get your dad back to the care home and spend some time with him over the past few days. Please accept my condolences for your loss.

    Fiona
     
  14. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,232
    Female
    The Sweet North
    Please accept my sincere condolences. I am so glad you were able to spend so much time with your dad at the care home before he died, this will be a comfort to you in the times ahead. Wishing you peace and strength for the future,
    sleepless.
     
  15. nicoise

    nicoise Registered User

    Jun 29, 2010
    1,807
    Hi Willowgill,

    I am glad he was peaceful, and that you were able to enjoy some good moments with him in these last few days.

    Best wishes x
     
  16. Sandy

    Sandy Registered User

    Mar 23, 2005
    6,847
    Dear Gill,

    Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father.

    Take care,
     
  17. Onlyme

    Onlyme Registered User

    Apr 5, 2010
    4,999
    UK
    My deepest sympathies on the loss of your father.
     
  18. Nanak

    Nanak Registered User

    Mar 25, 2010
    1,973
    Brisbane Australia
    Please accept my condolances on the loss of your father
    Nanak
    missing what has gone and scared of what is to come
     
  19. sallyc

    sallyc Registered User

    Aug 20, 2008
    1,674
    suffolk
    So sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you.
     
  20. Helen33

    Helen33 Registered User

    Jul 20, 2008
    14,697
    Dear Gill,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, please accept my sincere condolences.

    Love
     

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