I have been reading all the messages which made me cry. My husband has dementia and has been in respite for nearly four weeks now as he kept on falling over and I was exhausted with looking after him as he has a number of illnesses including colitis which makes him incontinent and I feel I can’t look after him anymore. I cry all the time as I have got to make the decision for him to stay there full time or come home and things returning to how they were before . We have been married nearly 55 years and never been apart. Very hard decision to make !!!