My father is in the palliative care ward and clearly has signs of dementia. Recently he has become very aggressive/ delusional and shows acute confusion. I am so distressed I am off work and cannot even talk to him. He is refusing medication at his ownhome and is soiling the bed. He refuses any form of home help and as a full time main breadwinner I cannot cope. He lives on his own. Desperate for advice / help McMillan nurse already involved as he has lung cancer plus of course district nurse What are my rights. I am not his official carer and receive no financial help. He refuses to use his attendance allowance to pay for home help.