My grandmother has Alzheimer's and although she lives alone and social services are happy with her situation, my father (who is really her sole carer) is unable to cope with her decline. She is 86 and on the surface appears ok but she does not wash properly, does not eat properly and cannot hold a conversation properly. She has recently got lost on her way home from town, does not know what day of the week it is or year. It's hard to explain as I know people are much worse but this week she lost her savings and got it into her head that her other grand-daughter had stolen it. We have now found it but she still insists it has been stolen and is ringing the girl up and is very angry. This incident seems to have made her flip and today when my dad went round she took him upstairs and said "this is my bed and i sleep here. This is my chair and I put it there". She has become very angry and quite aggresive. My father cannot cope with this. Social services are of the opinion that as long as she looks reasonably smart and is able to go out and buy cakes (that's all she seems to eat apart from the meals my father takes) that means she is ok. We need to know what we can do when she will not accept help from paid carers etc.. She really does need to be in a care home but how can you make someone who does not think anything is wrong with them? What will happen if she refuses to let my father in? I know people have to deal with much worse and that she will become even worse but my father is not the sort who can cope with this stress and it will make him ill. Sorry for rambling but we have no idea what to do. Thank you for any advice that you can offer.