Hi
MoonHare, hope you managed a bit of sleep yourself last night
First thing I would say is...there is no right or wrong way of handling a situation, you just find something that encourages the response you're after & secondly, you very quickly realise that what worked last time does not necessarily help with
this time
My mother often says she wants "to go home" but it varies from living back with her parents to when she & Dad were first married, so I just say we'll go in the morning & have lunch on the way...it has worked most of the time & when it doesn't I invent something wrong with the car
It feels wrong telling out & out fibs to your parents but I've come to accept it is easier for Mum to understand that kind of reasoning, than to try dealing with the truth that only causes her to become utterly confused, scared & vunerable.
Just a thought...has your mum been tested to rule out a urine infection, because they can be nasty little blighters that can trigger unusual behaviour. Our GP surgery has a system where you can drop off the sample & fill in a short questionnaire as to why you think there's an infection, & they will phone you back if you need treatment so there's no hanging around or a battle to get the 'patient' to the Surgery.
As for the nightclothes & things...would it
really be so bad if she stretched out on the sofa on those occasions when she doesn't want to use the bedroom? Mum & I often go 'camping because the car has broken down' & we've never spent two nights on the trot, sleeping in the lounge
There are far more serious battles to fight than still being in her nightie to watch the afternoon film, like trying to get her to take her meds!
Good Luck, & keep visiting & posting on the threads; there is so much advice & support that you need look no further for a better bunch of fellow Carers.