My dad has returned home from carehome

[JAcky1205]

Hi all, just to let everyone know that may have seen my earlier posts.

My dad that has challenged his placement at a care home was finally returned home to my mum last Monday. He has advanced vascular dementia and we nearly lost him in March due to pneumonia but now he is funded under CHC we were granted his wish to return home. I knew I had to trust my believe that this is what dad wanted and he wasn’t “locked in” it was what he truely wanted and him saying “I want to go home” was not a symptom of his dementia.

If anyone is in a similar situation and their relative is able to return safely home then please take my experience as a positive one.
The first thing my dad said was that he was happy now he is home and so far, with the support of some amazing new carers and me and my sister he is coping very well. We have transferred him back to his original GP and not the one from the care home and they are amazed at his recovery and how well he is doing. We just need to enjoy the time we have with dad and mum now they have been reunited in their home.

 

[canary]

That's good to hear
Fingers crossed it stays that way

 

[JM2k]

Can you please explain the process you went through and how did you manage to get him home?.
I am having this exact same issue with my mum.
SW decided she needed full residential from living alone with basic care needs. An emergency situation happened which meant I was not available for a couple of weeks so the SW took the opportunity to take her away. We were looking for either private accommodation with care support or sheltered accommodation but never full residential because she is nowhere near that dependent on care.
But I'm being stonewalled constantly. They don't even want her going out for a few hours in the car to the beach or anything! They have fast forward her dementia many years ahead of where she really is now. Who knows in 5 years she may need this level of care, but she certainly does not need or want it now. We are here for her and happy to continue.

Desperate for any help and advice please

 

[Sarasa]

Welcome to Dementia Support Forum @JM2k. This sounds quite a complex situation and I wonder if it might be an idea to talk through your options with the support line.

Dementia Support Line

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I'm sure others that have been in this situation will be along with their ideas and suggestions shortly.

 

[JM2k]

I need to email the history to someone because it is complex, however I have just had a phonecall from the Carers Commission office today who sounds proactive and is going to try to speak with SS and advocacy now for me