Hi Chugglug, thanks for you input on this.
When dad was diagnosed/assessed it was agreed that he was fine as he was, its only now that I am starting to realise how bad he is, he keeps telling me he is doing all the things that you do day to day, like washing, washing clothes etc. But now I really know this is not the case.
I am stuck in limbo with him, he is definitely letting me help him more, however he is hostile to help and anyone getting involved with him. This carer is the first step to try and break the barrier down.
Regarding the policeman, I am under the impression that as the police have been called about him so many times since last August, they do inform the social services etc.
I am struggling on an emotional level today as I know he needs help, and having a carer come in is so crucial for this help, and I am so scare its not going to work (I hope she is good at handling him) no cleaning on 1st visit, just cup of tea, chat etc. I will email over some pointers on Monday to the Manager, which I think will help the carer get him on side.
I hate doing all of this, I hate the deceit, he is happy bumbling along doing his thing, which is fine, but his personal state is getting bad now and his flat.
thank you so much for your input and advise, it means lot!
When dad was diagnosed/assessed it was agreed that he was fine as he was, its only now that I am starting to realise how bad he is, he keeps telling me he is doing all the things that you do day to day, like washing, washing clothes etc. But now I really know this is not the case.
I am stuck in limbo with him, he is definitely letting me help him more, however he is hostile to help and anyone getting involved with him. This carer is the first step to try and break the barrier down.
Regarding the policeman, I am under the impression that as the police have been called about him so many times since last August, they do inform the social services etc.
I am struggling on an emotional level today as I know he needs help, and having a carer come in is so crucial for this help, and I am so scare its not going to work (I hope she is good at handling him) no cleaning on 1st visit, just cup of tea, chat etc. I will email over some pointers on Monday to the Manager, which I think will help the carer get him on side.
I hate doing all of this, I hate the deceit, he is happy bumbling along doing his thing, which is fine, but his personal state is getting bad now and his flat.
thank you so much for your input and advise, it means lot!