My mum normally looks after my dad who has Alzheimer's,her health deteriorated since January when myself and my family started staying day and night with my dad whilst mum was in and out of hospital.He cannot be left as he cannot cook safely ,gets up 3 or 4 times every night ,wants to go looking for his mum and dad ,the usual things .Last week my mum passed away ,and now the dilemma is what is best for dad .Everyone next week are going back to work ,and I know I can't do this myself as for the last 3 years I've been there every day to help mum with dad ,and it's taken it's toll .I know families do this for a number of years .Dad doesn't settle at anyone's house at all and I feel the only option is a care home .We looked into 24 hour care at home ,but was told it would not be fair for someone with Alzheimer's.,as it would be different carers everyday .Dad doesn't realise mum has died ,he keeps asking when a sympathy card comes whose died!.At the moment we are trying not to mention her ,!When is a good time to think about a home ? Grateful for any opinions or help