Hi I am new to this forum and I truly hope that I can find some help here. My brother died of a massive heart attack on Tuesday October 21, 2014. He was only 56. I am from Maryland and my brother still lived there. I live in New Hampshire and moved my father to an assisted living facility in New Hampshire in October 2012 because he had had several "mini-strokes" and a big stroke leaving him with vascular dementia. My daughter and I will be traveling (by car) on Sunday (October 26th) to Maryland for my brothers funeral on Monday morning. It is appx. a 10-11 hour drive each way. We will be leaving directly following the funeral to return to New Hampshire. This is 20-22 hours in the car in a day and a half. I told my Dad of my brothers passing. He was upset at first but then seemed more concerned with what he should wear to the funeral. I spoke with his Dr. She said she didn't feel as though that much traveling in such a short period was a good idea at all. . .and especially to attend his sons funeral. I tried to talk to him and explain the consequences of him doing that much traveling etc and he got very upset with me and mad at me. This upset me greatly. He yelled and said he would do what he wanted to do and that he didn't care if anything happened to him. I wanted to tell him that he was all I have left and I didn't want anything to happen to him but he put his hand up, closed his eyes and stopped listening. Please help me. I already feel as though I am dying inside having lost my brother in this way. What should I do? Any information, advice or anything would be so much appreciated. God bless. . .