Hi there, I'm new to the forum. My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers almost 2 years ago. My brother has lived rent free at mum and dad's home for the last 8 years. Dad died 5 years ago, my brother continued to stay without helping towards bills or paying any board to mum. Since her diagnosis he has sold her car and bought himself a limousine, he wanted to set up his own business, but he's also taken her to the bank to take money out of her ISA to put towards this vehicle.
My other brother and sister and myself now have PoA but he didn't want anything to do with it, we don't understand why but I'm so glad now that he didn't. He pays his mobile bills from her account, and other oddities which we've found out since we now get her bank statements. He was able to do this because he had control of her debit card and set up online banking which we have no access to.
We've since cancelled her debit card and online banking and are now going to take control of her finances. I used to feel indebted to him because he cooks her meals but lately he goes out without telling us, I'm not too concerned about daytime but in the evening when he knows mum gets anxious of the dark and him not being there. He unplugs the home phone, he's cancelled outgoing calls so mum can't ring any one of us for help. He doesn't answer his mobile when I ring him to ask if he's going to be home so I can get back to my own home after I've visited and he's gone out.
I want him out of the house because we may need to sell it when the time comes to pay for her a good standard of care but I don't know what the position is on getting him out of the house as he classes it as his home.
Any advice?
My other brother and sister and myself now have PoA but he didn't want anything to do with it, we don't understand why but I'm so glad now that he didn't. He pays his mobile bills from her account, and other oddities which we've found out since we now get her bank statements. He was able to do this because he had control of her debit card and set up online banking which we have no access to.
We've since cancelled her debit card and online banking and are now going to take control of her finances. I used to feel indebted to him because he cooks her meals but lately he goes out without telling us, I'm not too concerned about daytime but in the evening when he knows mum gets anxious of the dark and him not being there. He unplugs the home phone, he's cancelled outgoing calls so mum can't ring any one of us for help. He doesn't answer his mobile when I ring him to ask if he's going to be home so I can get back to my own home after I've visited and he's gone out.
I want him out of the house because we may need to sell it when the time comes to pay for her a good standard of care but I don't know what the position is on getting him out of the house as he classes it as his home.
Any advice?