1. PaddyJim

    PaddyJim Registered User

    Jan 19, 2013
    48
    North Yorkshire
    My beloved mum passed away on Sunday. After suffering with dementia for over six years, she was never in a good place with her dementia and even up until a week before she died she was in denial. Whilst our hearts are broken we cannot help feel relief for her as she is no longer in torment.

    Thankfully the end was peaceful and she was given the opportunity to die with dignity. A huge thanks to all the CH staff who helped the family during her last days, their care and support was exceptional.

    I may have only contributed a number of threads to this forum, but I read it regularly and found it to be a place of support and comfort. Thank you to all who have provided the guidance in the past and I hope they find a cure soon to this terrible illness and my heart goes out to all of you still caring for a loved one.
     
  2. beverrino

    beverrino Registered User

    Jan 12, 2015
    1,111
    so sorry to hear your sad news but she will finally be at peace. Sending you best wishes and my thought are with you xx
     
  3. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    I am so sorry to hear this, PaddyJim, but like you are relieved that her suffering is over and she is now in a place of peace. Wishing you strength for the days to come.
     
  4. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,967
    Brixham Devon
    I'm very sorry Paddyjim. Please accept my condolences at this sad time. Another shining star in the sky. So sad.

    Love,

    Lyn T XX
     
  5. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    I'm sorry to hear but please pass on my condolences to your family and you take care too.
     
  6. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,482
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Deepest sympathy to you and your family. Your mum is at peace and I hope you will be too.
     
  7. CCM2013

    CCM2013 Registered User

    Feb 7, 2013
    32
    London
    Wishing you strength for the days to come. I've just lost my dad - so am feeling it for you too. So heartbreaking to lose a parent. X


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  8. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    So sorry for your loss but heartened that you were supported so well by the care home. I hope you find happier memories soon.
     
  9. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    526
    British Isles
    So sorry for the loss of your dear mum.
     
  10. theunknown

    theunknown Registered User

    Apr 17, 2015
    321
    Good to hear that your mum and you were supported by the care home in a positive way. I hope this fact helps you as you go forward.
     
  11. geum123

    geum123 Registered User

    May 20, 2009
    4,604
    I'm so sorry PaddyJim.
    It is a cruel disease, for sure.
    Your Mum is thankfully at peace now.
    I hope you and your family will take comfort from that
    and have happier memories of her, as time goes by.

    Much sympathy to you all.
    Love Geum. xxx
     
  12. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mum. Thinking of you, take care xx
     
  13. theunknown

    theunknown Registered User

    Apr 17, 2015
    321
    I'm glad you felt you had a positive experience during the end of your mum's life. It's so difficult because you don't want them to leave you, but you know they have no quality of life. I feel guilty for hoping that my mum's not in this situation for long, but I have to remind myself that the selfish thing would be to wish for her to stay with us for us long as possible. She went downhill rapidly and is no longer able to do anything for herself and needs 24 hr care. I hope you don't think I'm being insensitive, but I see you're in North Yorkshire and I wondered if you'd mind letting me know the name of your mum's care home, which sounds lovely. Don't worry if it's not something you feel able to do. Take care.
     
  14. PaddyJim

    PaddyJim Registered User

    Jan 19, 2013
    48
    North Yorkshire
    Hi theunknown, I am sorry for you as I know exactly how you feel in relation to your mum, my mums quality of life had been horrendous for many years and at least she in no longer in torment. I still didn't want her to die but my reasons were selfish and I know she is in a better place. The home my mum was in was actually in East Yorkshire, in Beverley and is called the Old School House, it is run by the local authority and deals with people with complex or challenging dementia. I hope it all works out for you, best wishes. PJ
     
  15. PaddyJim

    PaddyJim Registered User

    Jan 19, 2013
    48
    North Yorkshire
    Thank You

    Thank you for all your kind words. They are very much appreciated.
     
  16. catbells

    catbells Registered User

    Jun 14, 2010
    384
    Cambridgeshire
    Heartfelt condolences at the passing of your Mum. I understand the mixed emotions,sadness at the loss of the physical mixed with relief its over for all of you, Mum is at peace now. Keep positive, let the emotions flow.
    Sending thoughts out to you and your family
    Heather x
     

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