Mum's roommate died

[Canadian Joanne]

My mother is in a shared room. Her roommate, who was 101 years old, died last Tuesday. Because my husband and I have been unable to visit because of illness, we didn't find out till yesterday.

Her problems were physical and she was reasonably cognitively intact. I realize she had had a long life but it's always a little sad when a familiar face leaves.

Fortunately, for lack of a better word, my mother is not aware of this. I don't even think she's aware that there was someone else in her room. She hasn't worn her glasses for several years plus she just doesn't seem to take much in. She will have a new roommate soon enough.

 

[Jo1958]

Joanne, hi
I don't know what to say, I'm sorry but it's not that bad, doesn't seem right but ....
Take good care of yourself and I hope your mother's new room mate fits right on in there.
with kind regards from Jo

 

[Logan]

That is indeed very sad, Joanne. A familiar face, someone who you have spoken to on your visits to your Mum, part of your Mum's life in a way. Mum's room mate will not be forgotten, because you will remember her. Lx

 

[burfordthecat]

Joanne

That has made me feel quite sad. I do hope that your Mum is not upset with having a "different" room mate.

Love Carina x x

 

[BeckyJan]

Sorry to hear this Joanne.

However, it is 'fortunate' that your Mum is unaware but a bit sad for the next resident who will probably not be recognised.

(Something about this is I am beginning to realise I am but a minute speck within this vast Universe :eek).

 

[Grannie G]

I just hope your mum won`t have problems getting used to a new room mate Joanne.

 

[Canadian Joanne]

Mum is fine - she really has no idea what has happened, as far as I can tell. Jan, you're right - I don't think Mum will respond much, if at all, to a new roommate. She doesn't notice her tablemates at all anymore.

 

[geum123]

That is sad news Joanne. I am sorry.
My dads room mate died last year.
We had got to know him and his family and cried for him.

He was a countryman, and I had always imagined that but for this awful illness
my dad and he would no doubt have had lots of things in common.
Probably have enjoyed a fishing chat and a pint.
In reality they had shared a room (a space and time) without even knowing it.
Terribly sad, but kinder that your Mum is probably unaware of this.

 

[cragmaid]

I guess in a way, you've lost a friend, someone who was always around when you were, and someone who would sense if you were down or smile when Mum had a good day. I hope it was an easy death and I wish them a peaceful journey to their destination. Night..Maureen.x.