1. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,061
    Toronto, Canada
    My mother is in a shared room. Her roommate, who was 101 years old, died last Tuesday. Because my husband and I have been unable to visit because of illness, we didn't find out till yesterday.

    Her problems were physical and she was reasonably cognitively intact. I realize she had had a long life but it's always a little sad when a familiar face leaves.

    Fortunately, for lack of a better word, my mother is not aware of this. I don't even think she's aware that there was someone else in her room. She hasn't worn her glasses for several years plus she just doesn't seem to take much in. She will have a new roommate soon enough.
     
  2. Jo1958

    Jo1958 Registered User

    Mar 31, 2010
    3,724
    Yorkshire
    Joanne, hi
    I don't know what to say, I'm sorry but it's not that bad, doesn't seem right but ....
    Take good care of yourself and I hope your mother's new room mate fits right on in there.
    with kind regards from Jo
     
  3. Logan

    Logan Registered User

    Nov 1, 2010
    799
    That is indeed very sad, Joanne. A familiar face, someone who you have spoken to on your visits to your Mum, part of your Mum's life in a way. Mum's room mate will not be forgotten, because you will remember her. Lx
     
  4. burfordthecat

    burfordthecat Registered User

    Jan 9, 2008
    1,707
    Female
    Leicestershire
    Joanne

    That has made me feel quite sad.:( I do hope that your Mum is not upset with having a "different" room mate.

    Love Carina x x
     
  5. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Sorry to hear this Joanne.

    However, it is 'fortunate' that your Mum is unaware but a bit sad for the next resident who will probably not be recognised.

    (Something about this is I am beginning to realise I am but a minute speck within this vast Universe :eek).
     
  6. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,137
    Kent
    I just hope your mum won`t have problems getting used to a new room mate Joanne.
     
  7. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,061
    Toronto, Canada
    Mum is fine - she really has no idea what has happened, as far as I can tell. Jan, you're right - I don't think Mum will respond much, if at all, to a new roommate. She doesn't notice her tablemates at all anymore.
     
  8. geum123

    geum123 Registered User

    May 20, 2009
    4,604
    That is sad news Joanne. I am sorry.
    My dads room mate died last year.
    We had got to know him and his family and cried for him.

    He was a countryman, and I had always imagined that but for this awful illness
    my dad and he would no doubt have had lots of things in common.
    Probably have enjoyed a fishing chat and a pint.
    In reality they had shared a room (a space and time) without even knowing it.
    Terribly sad, but kinder that your Mum is probably unaware of this.
     
  9. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    7,963
    North East England
    I guess in a way, you've lost a friend, someone who was always around when you were, and someone who would sense if you were down or smile when Mum had a good day. I hope it was an easy death and I wish them a peaceful journey to their destination. Night..Maureen.x.
     

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