Mum is now 2 years from diagnosis, still living on her own and is getting dressed properly, washing and basic tidying. However she is no longer cooking and eats only cold, fresh prepared food and it's only one small meal a day, so she's lost lots of weight. She has virtually no short term memory, cannot structure a sentence so struggles to communicate and doesn't understand much at all anymore so any constructive discussion is impossible. I would say she's moving quite rapidly from early to middle stage.
I have tried to discuss with her about meals on wheels, assisted living and all the options but she does not want to move, won't have meals and is convinced she will be dead within the year and is quite belligerent about all of it.
Her doctor has referred her back to the memory clinic and we are waiting for an appointment, I have spoken to SS and understand at some point I need to make a referral, but not sure what good this will do if she refuses all help.
My sister and I are struggling with wanting to respect her wish to remain in control of her life and obviously trying to prepare for the inevitable and keep her safe and well. My thoughts are to chase up the memory clinic and ask them to help convince Mum of the help she needs from SS. Is this the right way to go about it?
As always any advice greatly received, feeling very down, sad and angry.
I have tried to discuss with her about meals on wheels, assisted living and all the options but she does not want to move, won't have meals and is convinced she will be dead within the year and is quite belligerent about all of it.
Her doctor has referred her back to the memory clinic and we are waiting for an appointment, I have spoken to SS and understand at some point I need to make a referral, but not sure what good this will do if she refuses all help.
My sister and I are struggling with wanting to respect her wish to remain in control of her life and obviously trying to prepare for the inevitable and keep her safe and well. My thoughts are to chase up the memory clinic and ask them to help convince Mum of the help she needs from SS. Is this the right way to go about it?
As always any advice greatly received, feeling very down, sad and angry.