Got a call last night to get to hospital. When we arrived mum's oxygen levels were dangerously low because she won't keep the mask on. We were just through the door and the doctor asked us if we would make a decision on whether to resuscitate or not if necessary? He just stood there and we were supposed to decided immediately even though mum had improved since they had made the phone call. I just looked at him, I almost said can I take a 50/50 or phone a friend, the whole idea and timescale was so ridiculous. My Goodness, I know he's a doc but you need time to register this info. Fortunatley, through this site, I knew this might arise and had warned dad yesterday, or it would have been a really terrible shock. Stayed at hosp all night and am going back soon. Don't even know what to decide, dad just looks at me like I know everything. Doc says mum's standard of life is not good and resuscitation could make her condition worse. When did carers become God as well as everything else? The ironic thing is I have been informed the lift will be installed soon, but still no date. They waited a year! Now I may not need it. There's a method in Social Services madness.