My Mum has dementia. She hasn't been diagnosed. Despite a hospital admission almost 3 years ago where I had to 1-1 her. I tried to talk to her GP a few years ago and she overheard and was furious and he just said we all get forgetful!
I've tried again to speak to her new GP, still nothing. Things have been awful this year. Her dog was really ill and pooing all over the house, and my once houseproud Mum was wiping it up with baby wipes. I can't even believe how bad things were. I couldn't breathe when I went in, it was so bad! Yet her and her partner were oblivious. It took a lot of doing to get Mum to put her much loved dog out of her misery and allow me to clean the house up. The weird thing is my Mum actually believed she was cleaning. Every phone call, everyday she would tell me how she'd been on all morning when clearly the thick layers of dust and dog hair that had formed balls of hair all over the house. I couldn't use the hoover because she had even hoovered poo up on the rare occasion she had used it.
At this point, I have to say my Mum was always a clean freak. Always had lovely clothes on, hair and makeup immaculate. House immaculate, never anything out of place!
Once I was finally allowed in to help, I realised that as bad as I thought things were they were much worse! She doesn't shower, change her clothes etc, in fact when I started to clean (7months ago), almost all of her clothes were dirty, and I do mean dirty. I brought bin bags full of washing home. Her partner has been covering up for year's and stopped me from getting close enough to see how bad things were. He has so many medical problems and my Mum is totally dependant on him for food, drink, medication etc. He's tired all the time so she is spending a lot of time going back to bed with him. She's vulnerable, gives money away.. ... the list goes on
I'm not well myself, my hubby has secondary progressive MS. I clean once a week at Mum's, bring her here once a week for a shower etc. Sort shopping out. My hubby takes Mums partner to regular hospital appointments while I Mum sit.
I feel overwhelmed. This covid situation has me in a bubble and I'm struggling and don't know what to do. The guilt is absolutely destroying me.
Sorry for going on. It's been going on for years but other family members didn't agree with me. My hands have been tied and my Mum just would not acknowledge she had a problem so here we are .....
I've tried again to speak to her new GP, still nothing. Things have been awful this year. Her dog was really ill and pooing all over the house, and my once houseproud Mum was wiping it up with baby wipes. I can't even believe how bad things were. I couldn't breathe when I went in, it was so bad! Yet her and her partner were oblivious. It took a lot of doing to get Mum to put her much loved dog out of her misery and allow me to clean the house up. The weird thing is my Mum actually believed she was cleaning. Every phone call, everyday she would tell me how she'd been on all morning when clearly the thick layers of dust and dog hair that had formed balls of hair all over the house. I couldn't use the hoover because she had even hoovered poo up on the rare occasion she had used it.
At this point, I have to say my Mum was always a clean freak. Always had lovely clothes on, hair and makeup immaculate. House immaculate, never anything out of place!
Once I was finally allowed in to help, I realised that as bad as I thought things were they were much worse! She doesn't shower, change her clothes etc, in fact when I started to clean (7months ago), almost all of her clothes were dirty, and I do mean dirty. I brought bin bags full of washing home. Her partner has been covering up for year's and stopped me from getting close enough to see how bad things were. He has so many medical problems and my Mum is totally dependant on him for food, drink, medication etc. He's tired all the time so she is spending a lot of time going back to bed with him. She's vulnerable, gives money away.. ... the list goes on
I'm not well myself, my hubby has secondary progressive MS. I clean once a week at Mum's, bring her here once a week for a shower etc. Sort shopping out. My hubby takes Mums partner to regular hospital appointments while I Mum sit.
I feel overwhelmed. This covid situation has me in a bubble and I'm struggling and don't know what to do. The guilt is absolutely destroying me.
Sorry for going on. It's been going on for years but other family members didn't agree with me. My hands have been tied and my Mum just would not acknowledge she had a problem so here we are .....