My 93 year old Mum has Alzheimers and we moved her into a care home last Friday. We told her it was for a 2 week holiday while her usual carer was on holiday. She previously was in her own home with carers calling 4 times a day. Whenever she was alone she would call everyone she could get hold of and tell them she was lonely and needed company, she would also go knocking on neighbours doors telling them she was on her own and hadn't seen anyone all day. She went through a spell of thinking she was somewhere else and was constantly asking to be taken home. We tried to convince her she was already at home, sometimes she would accept this and just say "well it doesn't feel like it" other times she would tell us not to be so stupid and just come and take her home. The doctor prescribed Mematine which seemed to work quite well once she reached the full dose.
The dilemma I have is that she's really unhappy in the care home, even though we have chosen the best in the area and the place is very well run and the staff are lovely. Yesterday when I visited she cried and said she hated it, it was an awful place with an awful atmosphere and when was she going home because she just wished she could die. This has upset me so much that I'm wondering if I should take her back to her home and arrange extra carers to keep her safe but then I wonder if even back at home would she be any happier?
Has anyone else experienced similar and if so I would really appreciate any advice as I'm feeling totally at a loss as to what to do for the best. I just want her to be happy and content.
The dilemma I have is that she's really unhappy in the care home, even though we have chosen the best in the area and the place is very well run and the staff are lovely. Yesterday when I visited she cried and said she hated it, it was an awful place with an awful atmosphere and when was she going home because she just wished she could die. This has upset me so much that I'm wondering if I should take her back to her home and arrange extra carers to keep her safe but then I wonder if even back at home would she be any happier?
Has anyone else experienced similar and if so I would really appreciate any advice as I'm feeling totally at a loss as to what to do for the best. I just want her to be happy and content.