We have had the worst 7 days ever, but we both know that however hard it is for us is must be intolerable for mum.
Last week she didn't want to go out. Since Friday she has been telling us she is very ill, on Saturday she told us on phone that she could no longer look after herself and that she is frightened living on her own, she has carers three times a day and we pop in and out daily, we have been at her house as much as we could over the weekend. she now says she is dying, we've tried to tell her she isn't but we now feel that the only option is a care home where she can be looked after 24/7, she herself has also started to talk down these lines. Yesterday she also mentioned in conversation, thinking she had already told me, when she hadn't, that she had a fall Thurs night and lay there for a while not able to get up. She did pull blankets on her to keep warm and eventually managed to get herself back into bed, her emergency alarm button was hanging on bed head. We have now decided that we need to find her Respite for a couple of weeks ASAP, but feel that this may well be a permanent need, she is self funding so this hopefully shouldn't be too difficult to arrange but we have never done anything like this before and it makes me feel so sad, but she cannot continue to live like this and each day she is getting more and more fed up, are we doing the right thing?
Last week she didn't want to go out. Since Friday she has been telling us she is very ill, on Saturday she told us on phone that she could no longer look after herself and that she is frightened living on her own, she has carers three times a day and we pop in and out daily, we have been at her house as much as we could over the weekend. she now says she is dying, we've tried to tell her she isn't but we now feel that the only option is a care home where she can be looked after 24/7, she herself has also started to talk down these lines. Yesterday she also mentioned in conversation, thinking she had already told me, when she hadn't, that she had a fall Thurs night and lay there for a while not able to get up. She did pull blankets on her to keep warm and eventually managed to get herself back into bed, her emergency alarm button was hanging on bed head. We have now decided that we need to find her Respite for a couple of weeks ASAP, but feel that this may well be a permanent need, she is self funding so this hopefully shouldn't be too difficult to arrange but we have never done anything like this before and it makes me feel so sad, but she cannot continue to live like this and each day she is getting more and more fed up, are we doing the right thing?